Often times, you will need to tell other people what is on your mind. It can be too easy to think that asserting yourself is hurtful sometimes. With the right thought process, you can state your message but not wonder if you were blunt.

The first thing to do is known as the pause. Hear what they have said and take just a quick second to think about it. In this time, you will have the ability to really think of what you wish to say.

The next thing to keep in mind is when you tell them what you need to, speak without rushing. It’s good to talk in your most natural voice and not pretend anything. Just view talking to them like talking to someone you already know.

With this method of asserting yourself, you will be able to tell people what you need them to hear but not sound harsh. This is very useful when you’ve got to let others know things they may not wish to hear. With the right communication, people will come to understand, even if they don’t want to.